I hated bitter gourd when young and my mum used to force me to eat whenever she cooked it. As I grow older I tend to enjoy it.
Nowadays I cook it often and my children love it. I normally stir-fry with black bean sauce and soft bones pork or boil it in soup with red dates and dried oyster, which claims to clear the body system of toxic.
The soft bones pork are marinated and stew in brown bean sauce until tender before adding to the bitter gourd during frying.